My first Mother's Day is just around the corner. Of course, it's not really my first, but it feels like it since this is the first time the holiday is about, well, me! My daughter was born in late February, and I'm just now feeling settled enough to reflect on my experience and take some new perspective from it.
Just over two months later, I'm creeping back toward training while keeping my priorities on the people—one little one in particular—who need me the most. Here's what I've learned.
1. I'm More Than an Athlete
Every fit woman—really, any woman—knows that little question that can bounce around in your brain during a first pregnancy: "What if I'm not OK afterward?"
When I found out I was pregnant, I knew I would have to say goodbye to my abs. Call me shallow, but how my body looked when I was pregnant was difficult to deal with. No matter how mature or enlightened you are, it's not easy going from the best shape of your life—I competed in the CrossFit Games in 2015—to feeling like a giantess in a matter of months.
I'll be honest: A huge part of my identity and confidence came from how I looked and how I could perform, and I struggled to figure out who I was when I was pregnant. If I wasn't an elite athlete, who was I?
Nine weeks after giving birth, I'm relieved to realize that I feel completely content about who I am. Maybe I won't be able to get back to being competitive in my sport, or maybe I will. I may never train hard enough to see my abs again or make it back to the Games. But right now, I know that I'm succeeding in maintaining a healthy body and a happy life.
Healthy, happy—isn't that what fitness is supposed to be about? No matter where I go from here, I hope I can continue to say that.
2. The Body Is Amazing, Even Without Exercise
I'd like to say I loved being pregnant, like some women have told me they did, but that feeling never really happened. I read countless blogs and articles that told me to "enjoy the process" and "treasure this time," but I didn't.
I kept training safely and moderately, but I also watched my body get softer and softer as I tried to remember what it felt like to have an abdominal wall that actually functioned.
So, yes, I struggled. But I also realized how incredible my body actually is.
A huge part of my identity and confidence came from how I looked and how I could perform. If I wasn't an elite athlete, who was I?
Although it was hard for me to accept the physicality of pregnancy, I couldn't help but be continually overwhelmed by the fact that I was growing a baby. And I didn't even have to do anything other than start the process. My body took care of the rest.
Making my baby was an incredible physical performance in itself. Although I didn't have to train for it, it's still something I feel incredibly proud of. I made my daughter. And she came out perfect.
I don't think we take enough time to recognize what an incredible phenomenon a woman's body is.
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3. Labor Is Much Worse Than a Difficult Workout
f you're serious about fitness and training, you know how it feels to willingly put yourself through pain. When I compete or throw myself into a cruel and unusual WOD, I regularly hit a certain red line, and then I try to stay just below it.
Turns out I only thought I knew that line. About 30 hours into my labor, I think I finally hit my real pain threshold. It sucked.
Being in pain for that long gave me an entirely new perspective for my workouts. If I can go through that, I can do anything. It takes incredible strength and mental toughness to get through labor. I have no doubt it's made me a stronger person.
4. Training is Precious… and Secondary
When I was pregnant, I figured I'd be able to get right back into my normal workout regimen and be eating for my athletic goals soon enough. Wait, what's that sound? Oh, it's every first-time mother reading this saying, "Ha!"
Turns out there's no predicting how much of my time will get sucked away—often literally—by a newborn. That surprised me initially, but I was even more surprised to find that I'm OK with it.
If I only have time to squeeze in a 15-minute bodyweight circuit in my living room while she sleeps, then I'm satisfied. If I can do more, great. And, quite frankly, if working out doesn't happen that day, then it doesn't.
Post-Pregnancy Fitness That Meets You Where You Are
Jamie Eason's post-pregnancy training plan starts off with "napping baby circuits," then builds up to a full 12-week program. You can do this!
Because the truth is that caring for that baby is the most important thing you do, and that's true every single day.
I made my daughter. And she came out perfect. I have no doubt it's made me a stronger person.
You know what else is important? Spending time with my husband. Sometimes, the best we can do is go for a walk. And when I go back to work full time, there will be fewer hours in each day to make sure all of these important things get done.
But they will, somehow. And I see now that it won't be by accident. On some level, that's kind of terrifying, but on another, it's inspiring. I see how I need to take ownership of what's important in my life and make it happen.
Welcome to motherhood.
To all those moms out there who are struggling to "get their body back," I get it now. And I'm not sure what I would have said a year ago, but now I say, "Do what you can when you can." And if you never fit back into those old size-whatever pants… go buy some new pants.